Funny thing happened this Saturday I along with others were invited to a birthday bash very different from mine. The set up was excellent the host had waitresses standing by your every wish, the cake was immaculte, nice buffet, drinks were availabel [but nothing alcoholic not even beer], smokers could go out and light, music was playing but only one glich- there was only two people beised the birthday girl, her friend and her brother.
When I reached at the place, there were between 8-12 people and they were there as cusotmers of the place not birthday invitees, as I enter I look around for familiar faces but find none except the birthday girl, we greet I am a little uncomfortable since I did not get her any gifts. I did not know what to bring her a book” too nerdy, jewelry? to pretentious, a VCD? no way, clothing? don’t know her size and her style, cake, cookies? hello it was a party cookies would have been there, wine? she does not drink.
So fidgeting I greet her, exchange plesantries and look around the place at this point I am told I am the first invitee to come,I, humbled smile and wait around for people I know to make a showing, so after a few minutes of agony I make apologies and step out for a quiack smoke, then finally a face I recognise waves at me for a distance I was elated, i felt that i was saved, se we both come in wait a few more agonising minutes [32 minutes to be precise] and start attacking the buffet …. another half hour passes and we finally understand that nobody is goinbg to show up and encourage her to blow out the candels and cut the cake. She does this we wait and leave.
Leaving the party I felt really sorry for the girl guys would have handle sit easy [that if they like the pomp and ceremony that comes with birthday parties] but girls take the offense really hard. RSVPs (Répondez s’il-vous-plaît” or “Réservez s’il-vous-plaît”, a French phrase that translates to “Please respond” or “Please book your place” or “Response Shall Verify Presence”, an English substitute for the meaning of “R.S.V.P”) are not really common here and people either opt to call ahead and say sorry or have someone pass on their excuses fro them or simply don’t come and give their excuses when they are caught some other day. I left that party with a promise to myself to make sure I inform of my absence for future engagements.